2. It must be hard for your husband to support the entire family. Even though just one partner brings in the financial part, doesn't mean the other side doesn't work. There's just as much merit to going out to work as there is to staying home and keeping the boat afloat. Heck, the fact that one partner stays home even saves money (clothing, daycare, cleaning costs...).
3. It must be lovely to be home with your kids all the time. Yes, it is lovely, and it is awesome that we are at a point in our lives that we have the means to support our family on one income. But sometimes it can be horrible, hair pulling, dreadful. Stay at home moms often live in relative isolation and being alone with your kids all the time can take it's toll. There's no need to romanticise SAHM's.
4. Lovely, well but then you can afford it. I once made the calculation with a friend where both her and her partner have a low salary and NOT working for one of them was actually financially more attractive, since there would be tax benefits, no daycare to pay, less gas and other savings you make because you're home. Most families could afford for one partner to stay home, but it may require some sacrifices. My friend chose to stay at work even after the calculations, because she knew she'd miss the social setting that work provides.
5. Don't you have any ambition? Again, a pretty demeaning comment, doesn't really show that you have picked up any tact throughout the years. Deciding against a career for the benefit of your family isn't a lack of ambition, it's a choice. Most SAHM have made this choice knowing what the other side of the coin looks like. Ambitious women will find a way to channel their creativity. And even if one would lack ambition, but makes a lovely home for her family, isn't that a beautiful thing to do with one's life too?
6. How anti-feminist of you. This one often said with praise by men, with disgust buy women. The truth is, SAHM is a choice and feminism should be ALL about choice. If feminism is only about one specific path, then it's more like one of the -archy's it so violently opposes. I am a SAHM, I have kids and I am a feminist.
7. Well, I couldn't spend that much time with my kids. Then why did you have them?
8. What a waste of your degree! Personally, I believe in study as the formation of the mind, what you use that mind for doesn't necessarily need to be a job. In hindsight, I would have chosen a field of study that would have been more useful to me as a stay at home mother, but that's not because I chose wrong, that's because my studies had been chosen for me by my parents.
Are you a SAHM? What's the most annoying comment you've ever gotten?
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