I wanted to write today about what's pejoratively labelled by media and the overall online world as mom bloggers, which is basically an umbrella term for women who blog about crafting, home decorating, parenting, learning, psychology, adoption, third world problematics and many more topics, varying from the very shallow to the profound, and who happen to have kids. Some of these blogs are deeply researched reference works, others are opinion pieces, others are just rants, but they are so deeply versatile that they would deserve some more diversification, don't they.
It's not like there's a whole category of blogs being labelled single white men blogs, or dad blogs…
That aside, why is it that blogging is so popular to mothers? Let's just put all the jokes and umbrella terms and labels aside… What attracts mothers to the internet en masse to write about these various topics with a passion very little paid writers bring to their desks? To set themselves the standards of writing daily or weekly, to learn to code and create visually attractive images, to manage various social media channels like moguls and to work their butts off for little or no monetary reward?
Would it be that women feel that they are very little heard in other places? That there is no or little room in the conventional job world for them that takes into account their needs?
These women bloggers are not less skilled then another person working a full time job, and I can personally vouch that they certainly not work less hours than a full time job (heck, many of us work more hours than a full time job, and manage to take care of the household and family).
Society does not offer jobs that are flexible or provide the opportunity to take care of our children while we work, whereas science has proved time and again that women can multitask. We are told that we have to choose to either take care of our children ourselves and shun the workspace, or put oour children in the care of another. There are (little to) no alternatives. No gray space.
These women are telling society, en masse, that they can be creative, active, productive, and still raise their kids themselves. That they want to raise their kids, but also want to do something aside from childcare. That it's not because a women chooses to take care of her own children that she has no other ambitions or passions.
And as I said above, many of us invest our time and our hours and our skill and certainly do not 'make
It is time to value mothers for the passionate and skilled women they are instead of casting them off because they had a child. It's time to reevaluate the archaic business model our world uses. It's time to change the way we look at learning curves and value.
Instead of scoffing at women who blog (and also have kids), see this trend as a way for women to finally have a voice and a goal (even if the goal is somewhat unclear at times). See it as these women saying: hey, you might not have a place for me, but I'll make a place for myself.
PS This blog is certainly not intended against women who choose a career, who choose not to have children or who choose daycare or alternative childcare.