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My daughter was three and a half when my son was born. I nursed her throughout my pregnancy and she was still nowhere near quitting when my son was born.
However, the tumultuous events following his birth left her puzzled and fearful, and she refused to nurse, telling me it was all for her brother. Even when urged, to help me with the milk supply in the hospital, it was hard to get her to nurse again.
Eventually she did, but her interest in breastfeeding had taken a blow.
In hindsight, I am happy that her appreciation for breastfeeding started to dwindle. My son turned out to be a fierce drinker and it was just draining to have them both at the breast. Gradually, my daughter lost her interest completely, and is now, at age five, nearly done.
To be completely honest, with a smaller child, it felt awkward to have her nurse. Not the fact that she's older, but because the sensation is different with her than it is with the smaller one, who's still drinking quite often. Maybe she's lost the habit and that makes for a different feeling... I don't know. I just know that pretty soon after my son was born, I started practicing don't offer, don't refuse and a little while later, I started trying to point her interest elsewhere when she wanted to nurse and I wouldn't feel up to it.
I don't feel like any of the weaning journey has been coercive for her. I took great care for it not to be so. There haven't been any tears and if she was very insistent, or I was quite calm and receptive, she wold still nurse (and still does on the very rare occasion).
Yet there are some good parts of tandem feeding. Sharing breastmilk in those early day really did help my children bond. Seeing their eyes meet, their hands holding, it's really sweet. I think it also helps the oldest one see that they're just as important and special as the newborn.
But it's no walk in the park.
Did you tandem nurse? How was your experience?
Here are more post by the Breastfeeding Cafe Carnival participants! Check back because more will be added throughout the day.
- Laura @ Authentic Parenting-Tandem nursing: Blessing or Curse
- Claire @ The Adventures of Lactating Girl-Thoughts on Tandem Nursing-One Year Later
- Krystyna @ Sweet Pea Families-Breastfeeding Multiples
- Marie-Hélène @ Momzelle-Breastfeeding Twins
- And of course the guest poster on the Breastfeeding Cafe’s blog today is Marilee-Breastfeeding Twins