Google+ Authentic Parenting: Anger, Depression and Their Effect on Your Family

Thursday, July 11, 2013

Anger, Depression and Their Effect on Your Family

I've wrote about parenting with depression several times before, only recently I wrote about how depression affected my self image. Today, I wanted to write about what affect being depressed and angry has on your entire family. Writing about this topic isn't much fun. It's pretty painful and very much taboo... But I do feel that it's important to do so, because we need to know....

So many things in my life, my parenting could have been made simple if only I would have known that I wasn't alone. That others have the same feelings. By shutting up and shutting others out, we avoid dealing, we avoid change.


I've found that as keeper of the home, my feelings are the barometer for everyone in my house. When I am angry and depressed, my kids are whiny and clingy and acting out. My husband retracts into his own world and doesn't participate in our family. Food doesn't come to the table, washing isn't done... All of those nice and cosy things that make our house a home just go out the door. And we end up as if we were shipwrecked, all of us.
Lost, confused, angry, disoriented...
Not knowing who or what to cling to, where to go or stand.

These are situations that can easily escalate. Angry mom, aggressive child, whiny baby, angrier and frustrated mom, emotionally absent father, screaming mom... you get the picture.

I've found that knowing what effect your emotional state has on the entire family can be very liberating.
Whenever you're down the slippery slope of whiny kids, angry mom, you know you can turn it around. By changing your initial response to one of connection instead of rejection, you can change the tone of the day. Like a refresh button.
You control your emotions and thus you have some control over your family's appreciation of the day too.




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Sunrise: Diganta Talukdar 

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22 comments:

  1. I am so glad I found your blog on the Lovely hop. I suffer from depression too, and often I find my partner doesn't understand my frustrations. Parenting with depression is a nightmare at times and can be frightening and lonely.

    I agree, it'a a subject that is unnecessarily taboo and should be talked about more... thanks so much for sharing this.

    Serena

    http://operationbhm.com
    http://voicelessfricative.wordpress.com

    (P.S. I love the idea of a refresh button... got to use mine more!)

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    1. Thanks for hopping over! and sharing your story. I agree it is extremely hard. I struggled with a very deep depression for two year and only recently 'emerged' (mostly) from it... At least IO got to write a book from the experience.

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  2. Love this message:)) My sweet hubs always says "Happy Wife, Happy Life" and I try so much to overcome negativity and make sure my life is happy!!
    Just dropping in from "A Lovely Blog Hop" to meet you and follow via GFC:))

    Hugs!!
    http://www.myturnforus.com/

    PS Would love to invite you to Lets Get Social Sunday:))

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    1. Awesome saying your hubbie has! I'll try to remember Sunday!!
      ANd nice to meet you!

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  3. What an enlightening post. Even though I don't suffer from depression, I still know my mood can definitely rub off on everyone in our home. Thanks for sharing some great information to help others know their not alone.

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  4. Very true! Our mood, whether good or bad, tends to rub off onto others!

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  5. Very true! Our mood, whether positive or negative tends to rub off on those around us.

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  6. It's so important for those suffering to know they aren't alone. Thank you for sharing your story and raising awareness on such a crucial topic. HUGS!!

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  7. Great tips - love the idea of a refresh button. Thanks for sharing.

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  8. Great advice, depression changes lives and everyone around you.

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  9. My problem isn't anger. My problem is anxiety. It is so bad that I rarely leave the house, and that definitely impacts my family. When I get in the car at all, I wear headphones and sit in the back seat. Thankfully, my husband is understanding, but I know it effects our relationship and I'm trying to get it under check.

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    1. I understand this... Ever since I got married I've grown more and more secluded. I always had some degree of agoraphobia, but within the comfort of my marriage, I've been able to grow this... I really have to force myself to come out and do stuff on my own. I'd never leave the house!

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  10. This is a very serious topic. The way you act does affect others so try to be happy :)

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  11. This is a very serious topic. The way you act does affect others, so be happy :)

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  12. Great advice! Thanks for sharing such an intimate story.

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  13. Great advice! Thanks for sharing such an intimate story.

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  14. I don't have time for anger! I try my best to stay happy so that reflects back on my family and they are happy, too.

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  15. I agree with what you've said, we are the captain of our soul, it depends on us how we wanted our day to be, and being aware of the repurcussions you're anger might bring us to our own refresh button. Such a nice post.

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  16. What a powerful post, especially "as keeper of the home, my feelings are the barometer for everyone in my house". It is such an important reminder to us all.

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  17. Depression is a real disease that a lot of people suffer from. Thanks for posting this and sharing your knowledge on it.

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  18. This post makes real the saying, "if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy." We do control a great deal of the emotional state of our homes.

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  19. Wow, thank you so much for being so open about your experience, and your ability to reflect and reframe during difficult times is very helpful, too. This will certainly benefit a lot of families.

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