I've wrote about parenting with depression several times before, only recently I wrote about how depression affected my self image. Today, I wanted to write about what affect being depressed and angry has on your entire family. Writing about this topic isn't much fun. It's pretty painful and very much taboo... But I do feel that it's important to do so, because we need to know....
So many things in my life, my parenting could have been made simple if only I would have known that I wasn't alone. That others have the same feelings. By shutting up and shutting others out, we avoid dealing, we avoid change.
I've found that as keeper of the home, my feelings are the barometer for everyone in my house. When I am angry and depressed, my kids are whiny and clingy and acting out. My husband retracts into his own world and doesn't participate in our family. Food doesn't come to the table, washing isn't done... All of those nice and cosy things that make our house a home just go out the door. And we end up as if we were shipwrecked, all of us.
Lost, confused, angry, disoriented...
Not knowing who or what to cling to, where to go or stand.
These are situations that can easily escalate. Angry mom, aggressive child, whiny baby, angrier and frustrated mom, emotionally absent father, screaming mom... you get the picture.
Whenever you're down the slippery slope of whiny kids, angry mom, you know you can turn it around. By changing your initial response to one of connection instead of rejection, you can change the tone of the day. Like a refresh button.
You control your emotions and thus you have some control over your family's appreciation of the day too.
My book "Mommy Overwhelm: A Holistic Approach to Parental Stress and Depression" gives you a myriad of tips top deal with anger and depression naturally and holistically. With this guide, you are able to compose a program that works for you and brings you to happier and more balanced parenting. The book is now available through this site for only 3,49USD.
Mother walking: SpeNoot
Sunrise: Diganta Talukdar
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