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Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Keeping Stress at Bay from Day to Day

Welcome to the May edition of the Simply Living Blog CarnivalDaily Lives cohosted by Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children, Laura at Authentic Parenting, Jennifer at True Confessions of a Real Mommy, and Joella at Fine and Fair. This month, we write about what we do to keep the little things from overwhelming us. Please check out the links to posts by our other participants at the end of this post.


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Keeping stress out of our daily lives is not something that's on my mind, really. I think it's something I automatically do. When I feel that we're heading in the wrong direction, I will take action, but otherwise, I try to just flow. We do have a lot less stress - living in Africa - then the average Western family anyway. That's probably one of the main reasons why we're still living here after all these years.

Routine

We seem to fall into a routine throughout the week and everyone seems comfortable with that. Each of us has his or her daily business and the kids do reach a routine bedtime. We don't really prompt them or anything, it just follows the rhythm of the day.
When the routine changes, we prepare ourselves and our kids ahead of time. Say we would be traveling, a week ahead of time, we'll say when we are going and where, the three days prior to travel, we'll tell our daughter every step of the way. That way there are no false expectations and little resistance.

Inner work

I am very susceptible to stress, my husband's stress or my own or pressure from all of the million things I'm doing. When I sense that I am getting a bit stressed, I will take care of myself a little bit better. Do some meditation, take some calming herbs, take time for myself. As primary caregiver, my stress gets downloaded into my kids, so it's important that I take care of myself in order to avoid the downward spiral that a stressed out family can be.

Outside stress remains outside

I find myself reminding my husband that there's no need for stress from his work to come into our house. There's nothing he can do about that when he's here anyway.
I'm also careful about what energy I invite into my house and prefer not to invite people if I sense it could create a problem. The same goes for going out. If we feel that going somewhere would needlessly stress us or our children, we just opt out.

What do you do to keep stress out?



Is this a topic you relate too? Keep your eyes peeled for the launch of my first eBook "Mommy Overwhelm: A Holistic Approach to Parental Stress and Depression" at the end of this month!



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Thank you for visiting the Simply Living Blog Carnival cohosted by Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children, Laura at Authentic Parenting, Jennifer at True Confessions of a Real Mommy, and Joella at Fine and Fair. Read about how others are incorporating stress relieving actions into their daily day lives. We hope you will join us next month!
   


  • Keeping Stress at Bay From Day to Day - Laura at Authentic Parenting sums up some of the things she does to avoid being overwhelmed.
  • How I Stay Sane! - ANonyMous @ Radical Ramblings discusses the coping mechanisms she has to stay sane when her life is chaotic and often stressful.
  • Organising - sustainablemum talks about how spending time planning ahead has given her more time for life!
  • Simple Menu Planning for New Moms - No longer a lady of leisure, new mom Mercedes at Project Procrastinot has had to rethink her cooking style in order to maximize her time in the kitchen.
  • Happy Homes/Peaceful Homes - According to Lisa at Squishable Baby, It's the things that bring us closer together as a family - that keep our home Peaceful. 


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5 comments:

  1. Where in Africa do you live? I find that in some ways, living away from my family and friends has made things simpler and in other ways more difficult! I look forward to reading your book!

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  2. I live in Liberia, and I completely agree with what you say!!

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  3. I love the idea of outside stress staying outside. I often remind my husband to leave work at work. However, since I work at home, I'm not nearly as good about doing that. I need to set up a schedule for myself. That in itself would probably take care of quite a bit of my current stress.

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    1. I recently started using a notebook to make my to do lists and shopping lists and do find I'm more able to get structure in my work. It is hard to relax though, when working from home

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  4. I love the idea of preparing your children for a change to routine by talking about it ahead of time, I do this a bit but I am sure that I could and should do this more especially my eldest who seems to be much happier when he is in a rhythm.

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