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Friday, May 31, 2013

Depression and Self Image

Welcome to the May 2013 Authentic Parenting Blog Carnival: Self Love This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Authentic Parenting Blog Carnival hosted by Authentic Parenting and Living Peacefully with Children. This month our participants have written about their thoughts concerning self-love. We hope you enjoy this month's posts and consider joining us next month when we share about Babywearing. 

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As you may have read here, I dealt with a severe depression last year. One of the symptoms I struggled with was self loathing. Now I've never really overflowed with self love, but this was bad! Don't want to look in the mirror, pubescent self hate kinda bad. It didn't really help that I broke two of my front teeth and got some facial depigmentation disease.

Not really the self image you want to portray for your children.

When I started healing from this depression, I knew that this lack of self love was something I had to tackle, for how can one enjoy life if you hate yourself?
I started taking Crab Apple flower essence and doing self acceptance meditations. I also tried to look at myself differently when I saw myself in the mirror, and when I felt that I was just not able to show any love towards my mirrored image, I just wouldn't look.

We are often brought up with so much negative self talk, instilled by our parents, our peers and society at large, that it's very hard to break the self destructive mental chatter. Yet as a parent, one of the most important things to model is self love, because our children learn by our image. If we portray an image of self care and self acceptance, they in turn will have that outlook on the world.

Check out my eBook "Mommy Overwhelm: A Holistic Approach to Parental Stress and Depression".



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7 comments:

  1. I am excited about your ebook; I think it will be a very helpful resource! I also struggle with modeling a positive self image, even though cerebrally I understand I'm not the fattest ugliest person I make myself out to be, and even though I know I need to change that for my kids' sakes. Thanks for sharing.

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  2. So so so true and important, Laura. One of the things that helps break the cycle for me is knowing I'm not alone. Your transparency and willingness to share your story has blessed me (and no doubt many others!)

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    1. Thank you so much! this means a lot to me

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  3. This is definitely something we need to talk about more openly. The more it's talked about, the more women will not feel so alone and be able to reach out for help. Thank you for sharing.

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  4. Did you find the flower essence helpful? I've been interested to find out more about Bach flower essences, but I haven't gotten around to it.

    Thanks for organising this carnival and spreading the word about self-love. Our parents didn't know any better, but times are changing now.

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    1. I loved the flower essences, I still take them now and again. I took crab apple for self image and cherry flower for anger and loss of control

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  5. This is such an important topic. I struggle with my inner demons and try my best to be a positive model for my children. My hope is that my children will be raised with positive views.

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