Welcome to the April 2013 Authentic Parenting Blog Carnival: Peaceful Parenting Applied
This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Authentic Parenting Blog Carnival hosted by Authentic Parenting and Living Peacefully with Children. We hope you enjoy this month's posts and consider joining us next month when we share about Peaceful Parenting Applied.
It can be hard to remain cool in the light of strong emotions as a parent. Especially the ones we perceive
|Dealing with strong emotions in your child|
Yet there are a couple of good reasons not to 'correct' emotions, even when they are overwhelming.
- Processing their emotions will cause less stress in the long run
- All emotions are part of life, and should be allowed to run their course (allowing emotion doesn't mean acting upon them though)
- Children need to learn they are the ones controlling their emotions, not anyone else, and they can only learn that by teaching themselves to gain control
- At a young age, children aren't capable to control their emotions yet, so expecting them to do so sets both of us up for a lot of frustration
What to do instead?
- Show empathy, but don't get sucked into the vortex
- Step out if you can't handle it any more, take a moment to breathe and come back when you've regained your composure. If you have a second caregiver available, discuss this with them and make sure the other can step in when you're getting overwhelmed.
- Talk it through with your child after the emotional outburst is done. Make sure your child knows that these emotions are normal and natural and it's ok to let them run their course, but that it's not ok to lash out. Talk about emotions as a natural part of conversation.
- Protect your child. Some children can get violent towards themselves or others when they feel emotionally overwhelmed. You are the one to protect them and to hand them different solutions to handle their feelings.
Have you blogged about this topic? Come back tomorrow and link up your post on the Peaceful Parenting Applied linky
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- Dealing with Whining Compassionately - Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children discusses ways to deal with whining when it is getting on your nerves.
- Peaceful Parenting in the Light of Big Emotions - Laura from Authentic Parenting wonders how to resist being swept away from the storm of emotions in a sensitive child.
- How a peaceful parent speaks -Will the truth set you free? Shonnie at Heart-Led Parenting tells how being truthful (and more) in the way she talks to and about her daughter has helped create more peace and joy in her home.
- To Sleep, Perchance to Sleep - Mercedes at Project Procrastinot expounds on the difficulties of sleeping when you've got new twins by your side.
- Hitting and Peaceful Parenting - Susan May at Together Walking writes about her son's recent "hitting phase" and how they were able to navigate it without punishing him.
- Peaceful parenting in action: the importance of realistic expectations - Tat from Mum in search shares a few examples of how knowing what to expect from your children can make your day a whole lot more enjoyable.
- Success Through Encouragement - At The Squishable Baby, Lisa discusses how she helps her child be successful through encouragement.