I have written before about how I dislike labeling kids. Wether positive or negative, labels are not a very good thing. Yet the fact is, over time, we do 'label' our kids. We start holding beliefs about them. Some are positive, others are negative. As conscious parents, it is important to investigate these words that come to mind.
Adding words to character is a particularly tricky thing to do, as the words you use to describe your child may turn into labels and that can bring a whole set of fixed beliefs for your child.
- Being energetic doesn't mean being aggressive.
- You're very energetic! Look at how you just climbed that tree!
- I see you're very determined. (Here the parent could see the trait as stubbornness, instead naming it 'determination' changes something from a negative to a positive)
energetic, fearless, persistent, passionate, careful, prudent, strong, inventive, curious, determined, straightforward, creative, innovative, proactive, gentle, strong willed, driven, reflective, cautious
You can see that these are all traits that are valued in adults, so it's time to start valuing them in your child!
What are some of the negative traits you see in your child? How could you turn them into positives?
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