Google+ Authentic Parenting: New 'Parenting': Cyber Punishment Can Do Long Lasting Harm on Children

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

New 'Parenting': Cyber Punishment Can Do Long Lasting Harm on Children

written by Amelia Wood
Recently there has been a new wave of "creative "discipline techniques some parents have resorted to in order to punish their children: public humiliation via social media. In February, a father decided to take out his 45-caliber and shoot his daughter's laptop to pieces after discovering the 15-year-old girl used foul language when ranting about doing chores on Facebook. The father posted the shooting on YouTube as a lesson. The video went viral. 
In April, a mother decided to alter a photo of her sass-talking 13-year-old daughter with a huge red "x" across her mouth. The tag line read: "I do not know how to keep my mouth shut. I am no longer allowed on Facebook or my phone. Please ask why. My mom says I have to answer everyone that asks."
More recently, a mother caught her 12-year-old daughter holding an unopened bottle of vodka on her Instagram profile saying, "I wish I could drink this." Although the daughter begged for a spanking, the mother decided to post an image of her crying daughter on both Instagram and Facebook instead holding a sign that read: "Since I want to post photos of me holding liquor, I am obviously not ready for social media and will be taking a hiatus until I learn what I should + should not post. BYE-BYE." 
While these parents may think that these forms of punishments are just "hip-with the times," and aren't that bad—after all no physical abuse is involved—what they are doing can potentially have serious and long lasting side effects on their children. The "emotional abuse" can theoretically ruin their child forever. Not only will children of these web-based forms of punishment have angst towards their parents, but they could potentially be made fun of by their peers until they go off to college. After all, anything that someone posts online stays in cyberspace forever. If teased in school because of their parents' choice of punishment follows them forever, it can directly affect their self-esteem and confidence levels.  Children are no strangers to the harmful effects social media embarrassment can have on their lives, no wonder one of the children mentioned above preferred a spanking. 
Eventually your child may experience embarrassment on the social media site on his or her own, but why on earth would any parent want to be the first person who defames their child for the world to see?
Instead, remember to always warn your child of using social media responsibly. Keep your lives in the private sector, not the public. The whole world does not need to witness your parenting techniques or your child's wrong-doings. 

About the author:
Amelia Wood contributed this guest post. She pursues freelance writing projects in the medical billing and coding niche. She especially loves hearing back from her readers. Questions or comments can be sent to wood. amelia1612 @



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