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Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Preventing and Dealing with Aggressive Behavior in Kids

written by Ellen Spencer

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Aggressive behavior such as hitting, biting, kicking and scratching are very normal in toddlers. These behaviors have reasons associated to them; have you ever tried to find out why your child is getting aggressive, or why is she/he showing that behavior. These reasons can be anything like self-defense, lack of routine, anger and frustration of being placed in a situation full of stress, inability of communicating properly, tiredness, hunger, no adult supervision, behavior of other kids and adults around them. This behavior needs to be controlled, however in the right way. A few tips given below will help you better.

Identify the cause of the behavior
At times your child is just tired or hungry and thus displays such behavior. When in a situation like this, your child can’t let you know what is happening to him and thus starts hitting you or biting, kicking and even scratching. Give your child what he needs first, which means necessities not invalid demands. Then sit down with your child and explain that he needs to either tell you what is happening to him or ask you if he wants something. The cause of your child’s behavior can be anything besides hunger and sleep, identifying the reason is very important before you try to deal with it.

Your child is growing up and learning from people around him. Hence if you portray aggressive behavior; your child will adopt it. Be patient when your child shows these forms of behavior in a low but a firm tone, ask him to stop misbehaving. Slowly and steadily he will get used to it. Sometimes, an angry reaction to a situation will paradoxically encourage a child to do it again, as he is looking to get a reaction - any reaction, so make sure to spend lots of time with your child when they are playing 'nice', too.

Divert your child
When your child is young, it is very easy to divert him from his aggressive behavior. To divert your child when he is misbehaving or acting stubborn; you can simply tell him a story, talk or play with him or start singing a song.

The best solution to any problem with your kid is communication. Every time your child displays aggressive behavior, talk to him and tell him how much it hurts the people he does it too, and how it affects his environment (i.e. "See, the little boy is crying now and doesn't want to play with you anymore). You don't need to exaggerate the situation, just point out the obvious effects of his behavior. Start communicating at home, the first time your child raises his hand, bites or even scratches, even if he is playing, stop him at once.
Remember your child is learning from situations and people around him. To change your child’s aggression, you will also have to control yours. And remember: this too will pass and is a normal part of toddler development.

About the author:
Ellen is a blogger by profession. She loves writing on latest technologies. These days she is busy in writing an article on Wireless Outdoor Speakers. Beside this she is fond of shoes. She recently bought a pair of Designer Shoes from a fare.



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