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I think that becoming a mother or a father always has a positive effect on a person. I have yet to meet someone who became a lesser man or woman because he or she had a child.
But if you allow yourself to open up, to experience parenting fully, to be fully present and conscious, then it can be very confrontational. For many people, this confrontation is too scary to face.
Every person in your surrounding mirrors your true self to you, but nobody does it better then our children. After all, they are around to see every detail, even the ones you wish would go unnoticed. They echo the words you speak and they mimic your behavior. What they pick up easiest are often the things you don’t know about yourself.
So the next time your child behaves in a manner that bothers you, try to figure out if it is not something that bothers you about yourself. If he says something you dislike, maybe it’s time to revise the way you speak to him.
Accept your child’s behavior, not as a critique on your character, but as an act of affection. After all, he only mimics you because you mean the world to him.
“If there is anything we wish to change in the child, we should examine it and see that it is not something that could be better changed in ourselves.”
- C.G. Jung