I finished reading Laura Kaplan Shanley’s book Unassisted Childbirth, and as many of these books, it has worked as a catalyst for some ideas that had been in my mind, unformulated. This time, one of the ideas that formed was this: are alternative birth practices, the ones that promote ‘natural’ birth deceiving us? Are they putting a wheel before our eyes and leading us from the main goal.
Techniques like hypnobirthing and waterbirth and the like, they may well help a woman through labor, but what if we need not be helped?
What if we have the power in ourselves, without needing to resort to all these techniques and magic tricks? What if it is just in our beliefs.
If you choose waterbirth, in seek of relaxation during labor and birth, it means that you accept and anticipate stress. What if you were to accept and anticipate relaxation instead? The birth tub wouldn’t be needed.
If you turn to hypnobirthing, you are anticipating that you will not reach a meditative state without such training. Why would this state of mind not be innate?
The same can be said for aromatherapy, birth playlists, birth balls... They are all just clutter distracting us from the real issue. We still fear birth. We do not trust ourselves to birth normally. We need to resort to trick and tools to distract our minds from the fear and anxiety. It’s that fear that creates the stress in our body that eventually leads us to pain.
What if we were to tackle that fear instead, prior to birth. What if we were to just accept our body’s ability to birth, belief in the beauty and elation of birth, instead of creating an image of pain and anxiety.
A positive image of birth is the cornerstone of a safe, happy birth experience. If you believe your body is meant to give birth efficiently, naturally, and without complications and that birth is a joyful event, you are more than halfway to a safe, natural birth. Positive beliefs and attitudes contribute to a happy birth experience, enabling the mother to labor more efficiently and to open for her baby with less effort.
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It is in our power to make birth not only tolerable, but pleasant, joyous, orgasmic. But we need to avoid the decoys that make us admit defeat in advance.