Some of you may know that we are staying in a communal house for the past two months, until another house is liberated. So we're sharing living room and kitchen with 3 twenty something guys without a family (and their visitors).
Now what I'm going to write about isn't new to me, it' a phenomenon I'd already witnessed time and again, but ow, I'm confronted with it each and every day.
People evoke that children need to be polite, that they need to be taught 'common courtesy', they need to listen, they need to be quiet and respect others and so on and so on... All this is categorized under the label of manners. And children 'need' to learn lots and lots of them.
However, even though all of this is expected of children and their parents (may I add pregnant parents), none of this is returned. Basically, the same adults demanding these manners and courtesy of the child don't have them themselves.
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However, they find it perfectly logical to drink at her bottle of soda without asking it (who does such a thing, that's just filthy). They finish the savory pie I have made without asking if I or my family would like a piece, thus sending a small child and a pregnant woman to bed without any food.
They find it perfectly logical that they stay up until 3 in the morning on Sunday, thus waking up my entire family.
It is also completely normal that they smoke in the communal space at night 'because there are mosquitoes outside'. (May I remind you of the small child and pregnant woman)
It's also completely normal that they eat at late hours for lunch and dinner and expect us to wait (and then look at us strange when we don't), because certainly, a pregnant woman and a child must be able to postpone their hunger until they are finished drinking.
It is also perfectly acceptable that they come knock on my door and wake me and my daughter when we are taking naps.
But it is not them. Don't get me wrong, I'm not blaming these guys. It is society at large. I can give just as many examples for when we are staying at my family or my inlaws.
People expect children to be quiet and if possible invisible, so that their very important lives are not disturbed. And parents are only there to keep the kids in line. We expect of other things that we will never do and we don't even have the common courtesy we desire of our fellow man.