physical authenticity, bodily autonomy and the general right of the individual to make choices for himself where s/he is concerned. I have been having a lot of discussions o the topic too, and this strange recurrence strikes me:
In the natural parenting/unschooling/peaceful community, the large majority is pro bodily autonomy and is willing to postpone bodily modifications and life choices until the child can make them for himself.
However, and here is the can of worms, even though most claim to adhere to bodily autonomy, when push comes to shove, a number of refutations are uttered: the child is too young, what about bullying, sometimes you just need to say no!
Isn't that a bit hypocrite? Saying your child must make a choice for himself and when they do want something, refusing? Not allowing a choice is a choice too. Bodily autonomy is not just about not doing stuff, it is also about helping your child make an informed decision when they do so.
Indeed, the parent is there to make sure the child is not just acting on impulse and that s/he understands the ramifications. Just saying no on account of age, bullying or any other artificial reason isn't supportive of bodily autonomy.