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Monday, May 2, 2011

Book Review: The Conscious Parent

I received a copy of The Conscious Parent for review purposes.

As you might have noticed from previous posts (like "Excercise in Being Present"), I have been reading The Conscious Parent, written by Shefali Tsabary. As usual, reading took me a while, because I simply have very little reading time with all the moving and the child caring and the writing.

Even though I don’t agree with everything Shefali writes, like the labeling excercise she prescribes, this still remains a very important book, one - I feel - every parent or aspiring parent should read. It is so filled with Truth and well illustrated by very recognizable anecdotes, I found myself nodding at most of it throughout the book.
What she writes about unconsciousness and egoic reactions is so very true, and is - in my opinion - one of the main problems in Western society, not only when it comes to child raising, but when it comes to life itself.
I love the way she explains that parenting can be an extremely enriching practice, a spiritual path even. This is something I deeply agree with.
Another positive note is that she doesn't write this as an expert, as a PhD, but as a mother, who is flawed too, and who is unafraid to share her flaws and the learning experiences she reaped from them.

Sadly, she loses me at the end where she writes about discipline, notably when she mentions that time-out and taking away precious things might be a decent disciplinary option. I also disagree with some of the exercises, as I have mentioned in a previous article, but I have to face that these books aren’t just written for me, but for a more mainstream audience, that probably does benefit from these kind of excercises.
If every parent parented in the way this book portrays, or at least aspires to parent consciously - as conscious parenting is an ongoing process - even given the flaws in her disciplinary approach, the world would be a better place.



  1. I agree with you on your dislike of her opinions on discipline. The rest of the book was very enlightening though. I like how she focuses on changing our behaviors as parents rather than on modifying children's behaviors so much.

  2. Completely agree. That's why I say everyone should read this book, not just parents or parents to be. It is such a big realization that most people just don't make


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