Our modern society strains us. Parents and grandparents alike have to work hard and long hours and are hardly ever home. It is difficult to overcome the feeling of guilt about leaving the children behind when we are out all day and we'd rather be with the little ones.
If you're a parent who has to work late, or a grandparent who rarely gets to see his grandchild, you're probably thinking about that child throughout the day. You might feel like you're neglecting the child. Like you don't get enough time together.
I've seen this many times and the obvious reaction is to come home to that child and 'make the best of the time you do have'. So parents or grandparents come home at late hours and engage the child in play... Maybe try an exciting game like hide and seek or tickling... Because you think that's what the child would like to do with you, right?
But if you come home at that late hour, is the child really interested in active play? Are you listening to the cues he is giving you? Aren't you just trying to work through YOUR guilty feeling? Do you act upon request or upon personal emotion?
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We can't expect the child to play on our cue. Especially because late at night, the child would benefit more from quiet activities or reading a book. Maybe just cuddling.
Maybe late at night the child just wants to watch some TV or stick to his mommy.
If that is the case, don't go imposing your wants and needs on that child, because then you're just acting out of selfishness.
Respect their natural rhythm, respect their wishes and desires. if the child does not want to play now, he might be up for it some other time. Your presence alone is enough.