This post is part of a three piece series, find the first part about my daughter's hair here and third part next week.
At seems as if lately, everywhere I am going, people only have three topics when talking to me... And they are all equally irritating.
1. My daughter's hair
2. Me not having a driver's license
It doesn't matter if these are people I know intimately or vaguely, if I see them often or not, these three topics seem to pop up in just about any conversation I am having! And it seriously pisses me off, because people's attitudes about any of them tend to be very narrow minded and the goal of each of these conversations always turns out that they want to make me (or my daughter) do something, because obviously they know best!
So, you are warned. If you start about one of these topics, I may very well blow one day!
I don't have a driver's license
To be completely honest, when I was 18 I tried to get my driver's license. I did the theoretical exam and failed. The reason why is simple. My mom brought me to the testing centre and said it didn't have to take long, she had other stuff to do. So that and the pressure of a timed exam with a lot of trick questions made me fail the theory, never to return again.
Back then I would have given an arm and a leg to have that driver's license, just to be able to drive far far away from my home. I did have a mobile boyfriend back then so I wasn't home very much anyway.
Shortly after, I would start university, and found out I didn't really need to drive. I was living in Brussels and everything became a short walk or a couple of subway stops away. The world was my oyster.
I met my husband at uni and we moved abroad as soon as I had my thesis done (even before my proclamation). I never had the need to drive since I was 18.
- In Africa, I always had a driver and wouldn't be tempted to drive, just because of the trouble a white woman on her own could get into.
- I am always with my daughter and she doesn't like the car.
- I have mild agoraphobia so I avoid going out on my own anyway
- when we're in Belgium - which is the only place I could be tempted to drive - my daughter doesn't want to get out because she doesn't like it. She doesn't like the weather, the people, the crowds... she's pretty much an African child with white skin.
- The freedom to go away when you need to air out? Shouldn't you seek to create a situation where you don't feel like you should drive for miles to get away? How free are you if you feel like running from where you are?
- The freedom to buy what and when you feel like it? Generally, this turns out as the result of the 'car is freedom'-discussion: a car gives you the 'freedom' to go and spend some more money somewhere else. This is not freedom. This is slavery to consumption.
Find out about the schooling topic next week.