This post is part of a three piece series, find the second and third part the following weeks.
At seems as if lately, everywhere I am going, people only have three topics when talking to me... And they are all equally irritating.
1. My daughter's hair
2. Me not having a driver's license
It doesn't matter if these are people I know intimately or vaguely, if I see them often or not, these three topics seem to pop up in just about any conversation I am having! And it seriously pisses me off, because people's attitudes about any of them tend to be very narrow minded and the goal of each of these conversations always turns out that they want to make me (or my daughter) do something, because obviously they know best!
So, you are warned. If you start about one of these topics, I may very well blow one day!
My daughter's hair
Conversations about the hair can start gently: "Have you cut her hair yet?" Sorry, but I am onto you, obviously I haven't so you're just raising this question to open a conversation to push your thoughts on the topic.
Others will be less gentle and blatantly say it's about time I cut her hair.
I tend to respond to all the questions and the urging about her hair that we'll go if she asks me (or I'll cut it when she does). And she hasn't yet.
Generally people tend to come up with moronic arguments of hair pushing thicker when it's been cut or growing faster etc. These are all fables. Your hair will not grow thicker or longer once cut, it will simply appear so, because it's all the same length.
What bothers me most about the whole thing is that people don't respect that I respect my child and they don't understand, or can't even conceive of the idea that the child may just have a say in her own appearance.
Secondly, I am really ticked off by the fact that her appearance - and that of all little children, especially girls - is such a big deal. She's not even three years old. There is no reason why she would have to get the latest fashion in hairstyles, there is no need for her to look picture perfect. Why on earth should we be forcing small children to be preoccupied with their looks? The world is already tough enough on appearance when you get older, so please, give these kids a break already!
Worst of all (and here they are really pissing me off) sometimes they try to convince my daughter that she should go to the hairdresser by saying her hair doesn't look very good (!!!!) or by subliminal messaging (look, I went to the hairdresser, that was fun).
Find out about the driver's license topic next week.