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We all pretend to be individuals, yet we are all so very dependent, wether it is on our status, our job, our financial situation, our wardrobe, our eating habits... So many of us are just clamping onto trivial things, to keep up our artificial sense of self, because we lack the true self-assurance and support we should be getting. And the very things we are fixating on: money, clothes, property... they further demonstrate our dependency, our sheeplike adherence to the mainstream. Our obsessive quest to belong.
This lack of basic and internal support has made us sheep. Sheep who just love to have some one dictate what to wear, how to live, what to eat...
Individualist society is a myth... We are in no way individuals, and neither should we strive to be. Man hasn’t evolved out of solitary specimens, it has evolved out of groups of people working and living closely together. We try to break this legacy with this false sense of individualism. We try to deny our need for company and closeness. Instead we look to other Gods, we worship the Big Brand and the Mega Movie star... All symptoms of our need to be attached... to something.
The saddest thing really, is that, although we aren’t the individuals we pretend to be, we do value the self more than anything, and especially more than anyone.
This manifests in the mother choosing not to breastfeed because it might mess up her schedule (let’s leave it wether she is culturally determined to make this choice), in things like scheduled feeding and sleep training, in elective c-sections and inductions and everything else that’s wrong with modern day child rearing, basically, our culture tricking generations of women into believing that she should value herself (and her consumerist tendencies) over her child.
Be as cross with me as you wish for saying this, but before you throw that rock, think long and hard if any of these so-called choices consider the child’s wants or even needs ever so slightly.
|Mansel Lewis - Mother With Child (1878)|
In traditional society, one would seek to ensure the infant’s safety and to fulfill it’s basic needs, and the best way to do both would be to keep that child close.
You can argue that the world has changed, that traditional society has it backwards. But is this so? Why would our hedonism be praised over decent childcare? Isn’t a society that values the current generation above all doomed to fail - eventually? If we do not invest in our future and couldn’t care less about our past, do we then have a future at all?