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Monday, December 13, 2010

Life On The Fast Track: Are We Over-Organising Our Kids?

How often have you heard a friend sigh: "I wish I had more time" or "I am so busy, I don't even have time to breathe.". (It wouldn't have been me sighing, because I am probably the most zenified person you know)
Luckily our children aren't bothered by the stresses of adult life yet... or are they?

Are we overplanning our children's lives already at a young age? Do we stick them on the fast track at age two?

How many parents worry if their child is learning enough? If they're playing with the right educational tools. If they're ensuring the best possible environment to have their child reach their potential. If they're reading the right books to teach empathy, politeness, science, openness to the world... If they are doing enough excilerating activities with the kid... Maybe they should start some group activities? Did we put them in the right schools?

Stressing children that much at such a young age cannot in any way be benificial, not to their health, not to their mental wellbeing, and not even to their 'learning skills', to the benefit of which most of this stress is directed.

I cringe every time I see a children's book that claims to be just the thing to teach your child this or that moral. I feel sick to my stomach at the obligatory 'this child develops your child's gross motor skills and teaches him colors' on every toy.

Children learn from everything. You don't need special tools for that purpose. children's books should be fun, marvellous, not moralistic. Your child will not learn moral judgement by reading a book, he will by observing you.

In putting so much stress on what your child is learning/experiencing/doing, all he'll learn is... drumroll... stress.

Stress in early childhood is responsible for innumerable illnesses and insecurities later in life.

Spare your child the fast track and let him be a child, free and untroubled.


1 comment:

  1. I'm a very unstructured person and people who overly-organize their kids stress me out. Whenever I'm around them, I wonder if I'm doing it all wrong. But without coaching or lessons, my son is well-spoken, learning his alphabet, and picking up sight words. He's 3 and doing just fine without a minute by minute schedule.


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