It seems as if people always find something to pick on other people's children. Either they are too shy, or they don't play alone enough, or they aren't social. Or they are too loud - too quiet, they speak too much or say too little.
Shouldn't she be wearing a sweater? Shouldn't she be dressed? Will you really allow her to eat/drink that?
People are constantly gossiping about other people's children - even in front of those children - and they don't even spare the parents their piece of mind.
It's like suddenly all children are common ground.
Yet on the other hand. Those times when your child is being nice *rolls eyes*, when they are behaving in a manner that pleases the general public, then it has nothing whatsoever to do with the way you as a parent raise them. Oh no, in fact, if you dare say your child behaves that way because you let your child be a child, then you'll get an avalanche of objections. Of course not. That has nothing whatsoever to do with it! It's in their character. Maybe it's even because of where you live, but your parental skills certainly can't be responsible for any of that.
|Painting by Artemisia Gentileschi|
How do people get the idea that they can simply ask these questions, put these statements out there and blatantly judge everything we do, say and think... Everything our children do say and think. Especially because they're not necessarily doing a better job, or did a better job.