How often do we parents brush off our children’s requests for our attention with a “Not now, I’m busy!”. I sincerely believe that, when you result to saying such a thing to your child, you are indeed ‘busy’. For the record, I say it too (well, I’ll say “Yes, but I will first finish...” and only if my finishing it is really important - like I just have to push post or I am in the middle of a sentence, or otherwise my meatloaf will burn), but I didn’t ant to write about which busy is valid and which is not.
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What I do want to write about in this post is respect.
If we want our child to respect our ‘busy‘ and not throw a fit because we can’t immediately drop what we are doing, we must in turn pay our children that same respect.
We must accept that sometimes they are busy too.
Even if their busy does not seem important to us, their ‘busy’ is worth just as much as our ‘busy’. From their point of view, your tapping on a keyboard or stirring in a pot is just as interruptible as their games are to us.
So if they say they are busy, give them the time they need to wrap up. Do not feel undermined or attacked because they don’t respond to you immediately. After all, you are not running an armed force. You are running a household. And you do the same to them.