Everything about this consumerist, capitalist infusion Westerners are brought up in drives people to always wanting more. Now, there’s no harm in being ambitious and wanting to achieve your goals, but the way I see this urge manifested in many of my relatives and friends is not a positive quality whatsoever.
It’s like nothing can ever be good enough and there’s alway something missing, something lacking, something that could have been there to make the picture perfect, but is not, so now it’s ruined.
It’s like my mom who always used to say she wished my father was home more often, and then when he retired, she said she wished he did more around the house, and when he started cooking her meals every once in a while, she said she wished he cleaned up afterward, and when he’d clean up, she says she wished he put things in the right place and didn’t do such an awful job cleaning...
I see this downward spiral of negativity in so many people I know... And I wonder why.
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People always seem to be weighing their lives against other options and only seem to see the negative of where they are right now, they are so focused on what they are missing, on what they wish they had, they forget that they have so much already and that life is great and wonderful as it is.
You can still be ambitions and want stuff, but be happy and grateful about what you DO have. It’s not such a difficult switch to go from an attitude of negativity and resentment to one of appreciation and positive thinking.
When you find yourself wishing things in a way that make you unhappy, when you feel that you start comparing your life to someone else’s or one you could have had if you’d only ... (fill in the blank), just pause for a moment, and turn it around: see what you wouldn’t have if you ... (fill in the blank). Find a couple of things that are unique about you and your life, summon up the things that make you feel grateful. You’ll quickly feel much better.
If you practice this often, you will find that these spirals of negativity will show up less and less frequently.
So tell me, what are you grateful for?