One of the mostprecious gifts a parent can give his child is his undivided attention. To be really there when you are with your child, to be present, physically, yes, but also mentally.
A child knows when you're only playing halfheartedly, when you wish you were somewhere else, when you're thinking about the million things you neet to do.
I think that half a day spent with your child consensually is better than a whole day wishing you were somewhere else (so yes, I do understand parents who seek to pursue other interests next to their parenting).
Now, I have to admit that I am really bad at being in the moment, and not only with my child. I have a very busy mind and I'm always - or at least very often - somewhere else.
This has long frustrated me and I never quite understood where it came from, until I watched my mother when she was with my child.
Every time I gave my daughter into my mother's care during the holiday, she was instantly seeking a way of 'getting out' of that situation. Don't get me wrong, I think my mother loves her grandchild dearly, but she simply can't just sit there and enjoy playing with her. She has to be busy, busy, busy, even if that means she's not really doing anything. Just the bussiness is enough.
And while I don't nescessarily need to be busy, I do think of the many many things I would rather be doing every so often.
To counter these feelings, I have come to be deliberate about being present when I am with my child. I try to play with her for at least half an hour and really be in the game and in the moment.
I also worked on my interruptibleness. If she comes to ask me to play with her, even while I'm doing something else, I will stop and come right away, even if just for mere minutes.
I do not want her to learn that being with her comes next to something silly such as separating laundry (thoughh with such a chore, I mighht ask her if she's like to help first).