I wrote about collective care and social skills in a previous post, but there is so much more I would like to say about these wonderful, magical social skills we are so worried about.
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The world needs introverts and extroverts, leaders and followers, people who thrive on their own and people who need large groups of friends.
Out of the same 'nest'children can grow up to have entirely different attitudes when it comes to being social (or not). Comparably, children who have followed the same academic path turn out completely different when it comes to people skills.
I think the fear about socialization is highly overrated. People will seek out the amount of interactions they need in order to thrive, for one person this will be massive amounts, for another little or none. Is either person worth less? Will one of them 'achieve' more in ife then the other, purely based on the way they interact with their environment? Is socialization a measure for succes?
Even if we would take the definition of succes that our modern society holds, a lot of socially handicapped people go very far in life by these standards. (I personally know a fysicist who has achieved a lot academically and has a nicely paid job, but who has no social skills, or friends or any other form of close relationship whatsoever.) So why then is this such a big concern? If socialization isn't a part of the equation that leads to fulfill the big dream according to western society, than western society should stop worrying about it altogether.