When you're parenting against the mainstream, you get criticized. A lot. And often for every choice you make. Wether it is cosleeping, breastfeeding, babywearing, not or selective vaccinating, unschooling or any other 'crunchy' choice you make, you will always find someone to tell you - unprompted - that what you are doing is Evil and that your parenting choices will make you burn in hell. Or something of the like.
Some counteractions might be a little less frank, but basically, it all comes down to people rather having you parent in another way.
This can be exceedingly frustrating.
Another reaction one gets on alternative parenting choices is a lack of understanding. It seems as if all we do is explain and explain over and over again, cite research, confirm that it isn't utter madness, that what we do is actually a well researched choice.
Again, all very tiresome and frustrating.
So what do we do?
It's not like we lie about it... Well, most of us don't. We just don't talk about it unless we are asked. We learned the hard way.
I often find myself in a conversation about parenting tactics that totally baffles me, that goes against every principle I adhere to. But I know that if I speak up, first, all will go silent, and then there will be a shit storm of people telling me that their way is so much better and that I am the crazy one.
Or when people talk to me in generalities, like all parents parent the mainstream... I don't set them straight. I have no need to explain unschooling to everyone I meet, nor do I have the energy.
Should we be standing on the barricade and scream on top of our lungs? Is this closet parenting wrong?
Maybe being a little more outspoken might create some awareness, indeed, but it would also generate hours of unwanted lecturing and preaching that you just can't expect a parent to take each and every day.
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