- Why don't you try a binky? Why suggest an artificial means of comfort if the mother is willing to offer the real thing?
- Are you even allowed to do that? Wether the topic is homebirth, homeschooling or breastfeeding pas one year, there are always sceptics who think we are somehow doing something wrong or illegal by these practices, however natural and intuitive they might be. Moreover, who would be the judge of what's allowed and what not? Don't you think there are things happening that are far worse that would be better deemed of such judging?
- How will they survive the real world if they don't go to school? Like school resembles the real world much. Unschoolers and homeschoolers ARE learning from and in the real world, they are gaining knowledge about themselves every day. They will grow up to be more critical about the real world, and probably more secure and prepared.
- Are you nursing that baby again? What would you like me to do? Let her go hungry?
- Isn't she only nursing for comfort? Yes, maybe she is, but what would it matter if she was looking for comfort and found it at her mother's breast? If anything, this great example of parenting should be applauded.
- Shouldn't she be on some kind of schedule? Babies and toddlers are perfectly capable to autoregulate when it comes to food intake or sleep, imposing a schedule messes up thair natural rhytmn and will have deterior effects on their overall health later in life. Why would we want to schedule infants other than submitting them to our will and timeframes.
- You're going to try for a boy/girl this time, won't you? Why would sex matter that much anyway? This question assumes that having kids of the same sex is somehow unsatisfying.
- Are all those kids yours? How is it your business how many children one has? Where did we as a society suddenly start giving parents with more than average amount of kids dirty looks.
- When will you be putting the next one under construction? This question can be either very hurtful, or very obnoxious. Just assume a couple has been trying to conceive for a long time and gets asked this every other week. Or that a family has decided to stick with the amount of kids they have right now. This is not a topic outsiders should meddle with. It is the right of each family to decide exactly how many children they want and how they want to space them. And if for one reason or other the spacing or amount of children does not go according to that couples wishes, why would you rub their noses in it?
- Is it going to be a boy? If expecting parents don't disclose the sex of their baby right away, then they either don't want you to know or don't know themselves. Your speculations are thus unwanted and unsolicited.
This article is a follow-up to 'Silly Questions You Shouldn't Ask Parents'.
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