All the crazy after I posted Baby Envy got me thinking: is it really us against them?
Do we divide people up into categories and assess there likeness to ourselves? I have to admit, I do. It often is about dividing people up, and I can do so rather quickly, it only takes a couple of conversations for me to know if you are yes or no on the dark side ;) or at least corruptable or not.
This is about being honest here, not about being proud of it. It is about confessing. If you feel like throwing rocks at me (again) for admitting this, please do so, but think first: he who is without sin...
All this soul searching got me thinking why on earth must I do this? What drives me?
First of all, upon just a short consideration, and well, plain reason, it is very clear that there really is no us, nor is there a them. By which I mean there are no two homogenous groups of parents, nor is there a distinct line between those fictional groups.
Us and Them can be any religion or color or social class. Both may have adopted any dietary regime. Either might - or not - babywear, cosleep, breastfeed, the like. So where is the line? Where do we (I mean Us) divide the crunch parent from the 'bad' parent?
More so, why do we divide into protagonists and antagonists?
Here's what I've come up with:
- probably one of the first books a small child is shoved into its hands is one about contraries
- we tell them stories about good fighting evil
- we divide them clearly into boys and girls as soon as possible
- we tell them what is good behavior - for which they are praised, and what is bad behavior - for which they are blamed
- we leave them little room to see the grey areas, the doubt
- our entire culture is based upon war, upon finding scapegoats, looking for the treath, installing fear, assigning an enemy
- our language and our thoughts are shaped by violence and xenophobia