We all want our children to grow up to be truthful people, to not tell lies. But how many times do we ourselves lie to our children? How often do we change the truth to obtain something we want, or to avoid a confrontation? Maybe we even make our children lie for us? Or maybe are words are true but our actions are not.
See if you recognize yourself in these examples:
- Oh, mommy can't open that bottle, it's stuck (in fact you can open it, but you don't want the content to end up smeared all over the place)
- We can't go to the park today because it's closed (the park is open, but you are too busy to go)
- When your kid answers the phone: "tell them I'm not home."
- You tell your kid:"I'm on a diet" and then drink a regular coke.
How do these little white lies influence our little ones? Aren't we sending them mixed messages when we tell them not to lie, but then twist the truth ourselves.
Small children do not grasp the subtle nuances of irony and sarcasm. For them there is only the truth and non-truth, which to them, is a lie. It is very disturbing for them to have a parent twist reality, for whatever reasons.
Consider your words and actions more carefully, and become a truthful person yourself. Model the behavior you want your child to adapt.