It seems as though this question is on the mind of every woman who has children. Am I doing it right? Am I doing enough? Am I not spoiling my children? What could I do better? Women all over the planet are fretting over the way they are raising their children.
Yet we should all start by relaxing and being in the moment, because the best gift you can give to your child is being present when you are with him.
The only way we can be present and in the moment, is by being content and worry free. Being the best mother you can be starts by taking care of yourself. Stop beating yourself up about what you aren't doing, or what you mighth be doing wrong. Enjoy the things you do right.
Ask yourself wheter you are happy with the way your life is right now, are there things you can change? Are there interests you could pursue? Would you rather be working?
Don't confine yourself to the house, go out, meet people! Don't be the slave to your child as evil feminists like Badinter would say you are. Taking care of your child should be a joy, not a curse.If you feel like life is a drag, and start resenting your child for it, then something is wrong. Only you can change it. Reach for the sky, think out of the box! Everything is possible if you just put your weight behind it.
No matter what society tries to trick you in believing, you don't have to do it all. Taking a sitter every now and again or arranging some form of childcare does not make you a bad parent! If you are 100% involved in the time you do spend with your child, he will enjoy it more then when you are only halfheartedly there.
Go do something for yourself!